How do you deal with negative emotions? In the last couple of days I've experienced a lot of negative emotions. I was stood up by someone. Oh no you didn't! I waited all morning and this person didn't even show or call. Don't they know who I am?! And then I was disappointed by another person. I trusted them and even went out of my way to vouch for them. How dare they disappoint me?!
Both times I was really upset and hurt. I wanted to lash out and say hurtful things. I wanted to be mean. I wanted to hurt them back. Hurt people hurt people- we've all heard that right?
In the past I would have. I would have reacted like KABAAAM BEETOCH! But over the last few years I've been working really hard on managing my mind and observing my emotions. I think it's working guys! So instead of KABAAAAM, it's more of a kaawhaaat now.
Here's what I noticed, all within a fraction of a second:
1. Negative emotions came in ----> I noticed them and my reaction to them. I literally said to myself "Oh HAHA that's me doing that thing where I'm pissed off and want to hurt people LOL silly girl".
2. I realized I have a choice to make.... I can either continue down this negative spiral or… I don't. I can tell my brain: thank you brain, for letting me experience the whole array of emotions that human beings are capable of. But I choose to not be mean. I choose how I want to feel. And I choose to feel positive.
So I put on my headphones, blasted some fun pop music, and shimmied my way to the park. I instantly had a smile on my face. I'm going to have a wicked outdoor workout because the sun is shining and I'm going to have a great day. I am choosing to have a great day.
Did you know we all have this power? This power to choose how we feel? This power to move out of negative situations and into positive ones? Ya it blew my mind too.
What do you do when you have a negative emotion like disappointment, anger, jealousy, hurt, sadness? Do you act on it? Or can you just observe it and then decide how you want to move on?
I find it helps a lot to ask myself "what would your best self do?" I write more about this life changing question here.
So why am, a movement coach talking about brains and emotions? Because how you manage your mind will determine how you show up in ALL the other aspects of your life. It's not just about physical fitness. Emotional and mental fitness will help you get all the fitness. I will be discussing this more in future posts and sharing all the resources that have helped me.
Until next time, my Winjas, keep winning.
ps. How are you with managing your mind? Do you have any tips? Or do you go off like KABAAAM BEETOCH!? Let me know and let's discuss.
What a wonderful, down to earth, and relatable post. Thank you 😊
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Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to comment. I appreciate you Linda!
Hi Mya. Good for you for managing for turning your mood around! It takes so much effort! Especially when you've been hurt twice in a day.
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Ariana! Thank you so much for being so open and vulnerable with me. Your comment will help many others! Yes, it's hard work but it's work that we must do. And it's so worth it! I've turned to food to numb my emotions as well, you're not alone! Allow yourself to sit with the emotion and ask yourself what you're feeling and what it feels like. Emotions are just vibrations in our bodies. They can't hurt us. It's what we do after we feel the emotion that's hurting us. What's helped me a lot is asking myself "what would my best self do?" Imagine the best version of yourself, what would she do? Then, do it. I know it's easier said than done. But it's a muscle that can be trained. And the more you practice, the easier it gets. xoxo, Mya
This was definitely a great read and I find it truly inspiring how you work on not only getting physically fit but also keeping mentally fit and choosing better paths for yourself. Keep these coming
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Thank you so much for reading Gary! I so appreciate your comment and YES, I will keep these coming. :)
Very inspiring and great post Mya.
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Thank you for you comment Tony! I'm exercising my brain right now! Have a wonderful day.
U too Mya.
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